A Little Bit About Me
Bismillah, ar-Rahman, ar-Rahim,
If I have to define myself in one phrase, it would be "seeker of knowledge". Through knowledge lies my growth in life. I am currently doing a Ph.D. I am in my third year. I will complete my PhD in September 2025, insha Allah.
I am a nurturer and adventurous person. My adventurous side is the outdoor nature of me while the nurturing side is the indoor nature of me. So, I am a balance between outdoors and indoors. I am sociable. I like cooking. I cook all my meals from scratch. Sometimes, I organize foodie socials for friends.
I will describe myself as a creatively romantic person. With me, it's never a dull moment for my spouse. I am a sincerely loyal and faithful person.
For me, trust is an element that holds the human relationship together, and it means everything to me. I am a very emotionally conscious and aware person. I am very watchful about how my actions and what I say might affect another person's emotions. I am not arrogant. I am a very humble person and like to learn from his mistakes. I am a direct and polite person. I speak politely and straight to the point, and when presenting my thoughts, I don't beat around the bush.
Even though I am an emotionally conscious person, I am not perfect. My marriage life and divorce have forced me to reflect on my own level of emotional intelligence and how to improve on it and grow as a person. It has taught me to be more patient with my own emotions in my dealings with other people.
I have a grown-up 26-year-old daughter (not from my recently divorced marriage). I had her in my day of ignorance. Astaghfirullah wa atoobu ilaih. She won't be a problem because she is grown and independent of me.
My ambition in this life is to strive towards a state of an Ihsan by serving Allah as though I could see Him; even though I cannot see Him, I know that He hears my thoughts, knows my intentions and sees my actions. I strive to achieve this in my salah as well as human endeavors with other Muslims and non muslims and the treatment of Allah's creations, I work hard to adopts the ethics of Hayaa (shyness/humility/modesty) and Taqwa (forbearance, fear and abstinence and being conscious of Allah). Through the lessons in the Fiqh and Talim classes, I have come to understand that Hayaa and Taqwa are cogent, integral and core parts of Ihsan.
I pray every day, and I try to wake up in the last portion of the night to observe Tajjud and several Sunnah within my means. My Islamic knowledge is good enough.
I am involved with a number of community groups and charities. One of these is Brighton Migrant Solidarity, which is a grassroots community and campaign group that supports migrants, refugees, and asylum seekers in Brighton and beyond. We believe that everybody has the right to cross borders. Our aim is to build a strong and diverse movement where we support each other in our personal and political struggles to make the world a place where there truly is space for all. The second is Sussex Refugee and Migrant Self Support Group, which is a project of Brighton Migrant Solidarity that places migrants/refugees and asylum seekers at the centre of their own legal and political struggles by rejecting traditional top-down advice models. Instead, migrants and refugees trapped on the wrong side of the Home Office work collectively to fight for their right to remain, which is also a way of building community resilience.
I believe in interracial marriage, and I believe by wishing to marry into interracial marriage, I am fulfilling one of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala commandments, which encapsulate the best Allah has given the world if we reflect on Quran 49:13 deeply. For me, it is "O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted".
Someone said it beautifully that the 'best place in the world is any place with the right person'. I have no restrictions with regard to the idea of relocation.
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What I Am Looking For
Aside from the obvious spiritual prescriptive prerequisite, Islam has asked us to look for in a spouse. What I hope for in a wife would be a woman with deen, that adheres to the Quran and the Sunnah, wears a hijab, is peaceful and calm with an optimistic outlook, and a sincere sense of justice and fairness to other people.
I am open to marrying a revert sister who is interested in interracial marriage.
I am in search of a sister that I can totally fall in LOVE with, someone who is looking for a best friend in her husband. Whom I can also call my best friend and my confidant, someone I am always eager to return because in her is my safe haven. A sister that I can't always wait to return to see her face again every time I am away. I am looking for a sister who is emotionally intelligent. Someone who has a balance of nature in her activities between outdoors and indoors, romantically creative and not emotionally bland.
A woman that I can be her a loyal, faithful and trusted companion and confidant and she can be mine. A wife I can partner with, and she can partner with me, too, in both of our endeavours.
A wife I can communicate my feelings with easily, and she can communicate hers with me as well. I am looking for a wife I can connect with spiritually, emotionally and socially. Crucially, for me, communication! communication! communication! between me and my wife is the means to achieving this.
Again, I am looking for interracial marriage not because I want to have a trophy wife. But simply because I believe so much that Allah (SWT) has created us into races, tribes and nations so that we may know each other and the most humble and noblest among us would see know there is wisdom in that. I believe that interracial marriage is a unique means to tap into the Islamic moral ethics of Hayaa and Taqwa to achieve an Ihsan. If one can marry out of culture and race boundaries, one is prepared to be humble enough and to learn more knowledge from one another because one fears Allah and accepts Allah's creation as a diverse family of the human race (suratul Alhujirat verse 13).
If this is what you are looking for, It would be an honour to hear back from you.
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